Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Nicole Kidman: It's almost like a song

Before I begin, here are some definitions:

Narcissism - Undue dwelling on one's self or attainments
Anorexia - a serious disorder in eating behavior marked especially by a fear of gaining weight
Aging - to grow old or cause to grow old
Arrangement - to come to an agreement
Marriage - a close union
Savior - one who saves
Performance - a public presentation

"And every step along the highway of your life
I'll be the man standin’ beside you, believe me that I will
don't forget you came and saved me, you saved my life"
- Keith Urban, 2006

Those lyrics are from a song on Keith's Love Pain and the Whole Crazy Thing CD. It also could be from any of the PR Keith has done in the last four weeks. Why the desire to keep feeding the frenzy that these two people are so mad about one another? They got married. Wasn't that enough?

They apparently spend time with one another - we have seen happy pictures from St. Bart's, L.A. and Nashville. Yet, we still see the hand holding and the freeze face smiles on a regular basis in the tabloids. What is the point? Is it simply the narcissistic fervor of an aging performer afraid of the future?

Why keep telling the world that one of the partners is a savior? Is there an arrangement? Why does one of the partners look more and more like another famous Nicole - Nicole Richie. Look at the Easter Sunday pictures from Australia, notice her hands. The bones are showing. The woman appears to be unhealthy. More and more it appears that this marriage isn't about love, it’s about keeping up appearances. We hear Keith over and over again tell the world how much this woman means to him. But does he mean it?

Is Keith simply just regurgitating his own song lyrics? Why? Is something wrong with Nicole Kidman? Look at pictures of her from early in her career, even when she was with her first husband. You see a woman who many considered to be a real beauty. She looked healthy and happy. Does she look happy now, or is she simply acting? Is her public performance part of an arrangement, and these two people are married in name only? Like the song lyrics that Keith repeats over and over as his public declarations of his commitment and his public joy in having her, it's the same pictures over and over, the same hand holding, the same fake smiles.

The public outings like the one in Nashville at the hockey game are set up to get that picture in People.Com. They didn't stay at that hockey game for more than 90 minutes. Keith did something on his own earlier in the day and talked about how music saved him, gave a heartfelt speech, and seemed sincere in what he was saying. It was nice to see that Keith Urban. But it wasn't to last. Just like on November 16, 2005, one day after Keith won Entertainer of the Year at the CMA's, the first real couple pictures appeared in People.com. The world was reminded who he is shackled to once again by the shots in People.com. Kidman has been working the social scene in LA dragging Keith to power lunches, making a point of showing her mothering skills by being seen at an event with her children or sticking her gas-bloated stomach out at a certain angle.

This woman seems desperate for attention and this relationship is nothing more than a way to keep her face in the tabloids as her career is starting to dwindle and it just seems to be getting worse.

"I know you have heard this all before
but you're the one that I adore
cause you make me shine just like the sun"
- Keith Urban 1999

That song was about another woman. A woman that Urban claimed saved him. Is Keith simply performing again? I think so. What do you think?


Anonymous said...

For someone whose career is starting to dwindle, Nicole certainly seems to have films lined up for the next 5 or 6 years..... I'm not saying they will be Oscar worthy performances, but they will be $20 million dollar worthy ones for sure. She does seem to know how to make a buck or two... maybe Keith is learning a thing or two in the finance dept from her.

Anonymous said...

To take the lyrics from a Springsteen song..."Tell me who I see when I look in your eyes. Is that you baby or just a brilliant disguise?"

Seems an appropriate question to ask Keith at this time in his life.

Anonymous said...

OK so they are telling the world they're desperately in love. He gives her credit for saving him. Two peas in a pod. He plans to practically live on a plane this summer so he can see her often. Reminds me of an old song:

"Wherever we go, whatever we do,
we're gonna go through it together.
We may not go far, but sure as a star,
wherever we are, it's together.

Wherever I go I know he goes.
Wherever I go I know she goes.
No fits, no fights, no feuds
and no egos, Amigos, together!

Through thick and through thin,
all out or all in.
And whether it's win, place or show.
With you for me and me for you,
we'll muddle through whatever we do.
Together, wherever we go"

Yeah, right. Spin, spin, spin...

Anonymous said...

I'm thinking no one ever really knew Keith, nor did he know himself and doubtfully every will have a core value/person to build on.

I'm thinking as horrible as this woman is...manipulative, conniving, no talent, selfish etc..

I think Keith and she are made for each other. He's a sell out to the corporation that is Kidman. He's a sell out to his ego and not even fame, but celebrity.

In my eyes, his behaviour in the last 2 years is unforgivable and it reflects that even his talent he had... won't bring him back to good standing as a person.

He's fake and always has been, that's my conclusion. While people make mistakes and we are to forgive, at what point do you say enough? Your redeeming qualities as a human being as as deep as mind games, not genuine qualities to forgive.

He just wants celebrity and all its trappings at any cost. I find there are a hell of alot more worthy people in this world to spend my money/time on.

Good luck Keith and Nicole Kidman, you 2 surely are a match made in...

Anonymous said...

Interesting question. I have never believed that this relationship was totally for PR. I do, however, think that NK is a master at playing the media and that Keith is taking full advantage of that mentoring. Unfortunately, Hollywood types can get away with the manipulation. Country music artists...not so much.

If it's real, it's getting tiresome. I don't need them to prove their undying love for each other to me. The only people who must be convinced they're happily married is NK and Keith. Just get on with your life, and spare me the pictures of two 40 yr old people clinging to each other (or one scary looking botoxed woman clinging to a guy who looks totally out of place in her world) and being unable to release their grips even to knock on a door. It's ridiculous.

Anonymous said...

I do think NK is desperate to hang on to her fame. She has had some fairly serious movie flops. She is not aging well. So..yes...she's A list for now, but I think she's fast losing that status to the new up and comers. She is afraid not to take on many roles...because that means she's still important in the film industry.

She plays the paps and the press for all their worth. Unfortunately, she's dragging Keith along for the ride.

I think he is saying what he thinks he needs to say to sell his music. I don't say he's lying totally, but for a man who was always very private and didn't discuss his relationships, he is now blabbing about it ... and it just sounds too schmultzy...just a bit too much.

I hope that he finds his focus for his music again and gets the same joy from performing that he used to get. Right now, he looks like he's having fun on stage, but the passion seems to be missing. I don't see him being happy in his marriage or in his on stage life until he finds that balance he's after. And right now, he seems far from balanced.

It's OK to have passion for his music...it doesn't mean he can't have passion for his marriage too. It seems for Keith it's all or none...and right now, it's all about the wife and what she needs and how she's saved him...and very little to do with his career and music.

Anonymous said...

Who exactly are they trying to convince?

The average couple does not walk around looking like this. For such "private" people, they sure do act as if they have something to prove. Why?

If the skeptics are just sucking wind with their observations, wouldn't it behoove the extraordinary couple to prove them wrong by simply doing nothing but staying together for the long haul?

Their photo ops continue to look staged and makes them look ridiculous.