Saturday, October 6, 2007

An Open Letter to Keith Urban

Dear Keith,

I have been a fan of your work since The Ranch, that's why what I have to say is so hard. I think you are a nice guy. I have actually met and talked to you. I liked the way you used to tick. You seemed aware of the world and of deeper things. The entire concept of Be Here appealed to me. I love your music; I love to see you in concert. I can get a contact high watching you play. But after this last week with the diva behavior over the soccer match, the questionable motorcycle wreck and now the appearance at a movie gala, it has become clear to me that you have made a choice. That choice is something I can't accept nor tolerate any longer. Keith, you have chosen the A-list sideshow over real life.

You talk about “balance”, but is it? You fly to Australia and disrupt your work. Your wife doesn't do that. You hang with her family and her friends. Your family and friends, and even the town you lived in have all but disappeared. That wonderful house that was built with everything you wanted was sold, and why? Because you can't go back to Nashville? Why? Is it too hard being around people who know and understand you? Is it easier to start fresh? Are you so damaged that you don't know who you are any more?

Is your addiction so severe that you are afraid of the past? Does that past include your fans? When you chose the A-list lifestyle, and many of us know you do like the finer things, did you think you could have it all?Please understand it is not because I am jealous or hate your wife or have some weird obsession with you. I believed in your work. I believed in the career you were building. I liked your music. I wanted people to hear it, more importantly, I wanted others to see you performing. You have a gift when you are on that stage and you can touch every single person in a room. You seem to have lost that since rehab. Yep, you can still touch the sky in concert but you don't linger there any more. I miss that. I miss the chills I used to get hearing you. I miss the themes and variations on the songs you chose for your records.

When Love Pain and the Whole Crazy Thing was released almost a year ago, you said it was a reflection. A reflection of your marriage, you said. I saw a man very uncomfortable with who he wants to be, who he chooses to see himself as,and who he really is. It hurt so many of your fans when you went to rehab, not because we were dependent on you, but because we cared. Yep your fans, while some are crazy, most of them are mature, functioning human beings who support you. Today I look at headlines about you and ask myself what am I supporting? Since the infamous motorcycle ride in the country in July of 2005, it is less about your music, performances, and songwriting and more about your private life. I know that the woman who you made the marriage contract with was very high profile, but Keith, so many people are high profile and they live quietly and quite happily. You aren't doing either. You look miserable more so now than in the past which apparently was all about the career - so you say. We knew you had relationships with women off-stage. There was never a time you were alone, was there? You dated a supermodel but you kept all of that private and it worked. Has the way you have been conducting your life recently been working? You played at Live Earth - the best performance that day, yet flew to New York in a private jet. That's very fake. You say you are normally private, yet all I ever read anymore about you is how you do or don't want children and that you aren't who you are today without your wife. I hate to remind you, but if it weren't for the fans and your career you would never have met her in the first place. The motorcycle incident is a prime example of what your life is today. Going to an AA meeting you say, and I don't have a reason to doubt that, but why should I even want or need to know that. Then being chased, or whatever it was, and an accident that could have killed you. You assessed blame not on yourself for speeding but on the paparazzi for following you. Keith you know why they are now following you. Keith Olbermann on Countdown reminded you that part of that 12 step model is the one step about admitting your own mistakes. Maybe that is what you should think about. What is working and what isn't. Unfortunately I have done that and have reached some conclusions.

I will no longer buy any of your work. I won't go to your concerts. I can't support your lifestyle any longer. I hope you can get it together and realize what you are losing and what you are left with. I can't believe in a man who I used to believe could talk to anyone without looking down on them and now flies to New York to have dinner with Rupert Murdoch and then gets in a group picture in the way he did with real people in a meet and greet. I won't buy the Greatest Hits. If there is something new on it I will have someone get a free copy. I never would have downloaded or bought a bootleg as I know how you felt about that. But you used to be someone else. I am also choosing to go an extra step and discourage people from buying your work or seeing you. No more DVD’s, no more hoping you get nominated and win an award. Your life choices have brought the wrong element to Nashville and Country Music. I wish you would make some changes, but I know I can no longer wait. Thank you for the past. I sincerely hope that you find whatever it is you are looking for. I pray for you and I hope you don't destroy yourself in the process. I will be looking in from time to time and will be back if it does change.

We all have to make choices,

A follower

15 comments:

yawn said...

Here are a few artists I recommend: Dierks Bentley - he likes to drink and party - climbs into the audience all the time to get close to his fans; Kenny Chesney - again likes to drink and party - even walked away from a hollywood wife. Please put your support behind them. They may not be as talented as Keith - but heck given your delusional state, you might think they are better than sliced bread. Bu-bye ....

nativeNYer said...

but heck given your delusional state, you might think they are better than sliced bread. Bu-bye ....

Yawn...have you checked your dictionary today? Delusional and disillusioned are two entirely different words and I think you've confused them. Why is it that if anyone says they are disillusioned with who has Keith Urban has become lately they are labeled delusional? I think the real delusional ones are the ones who refuse to notice or admit that he is not the same.

maclen said...

Hey Urban Myths, btw, I like the new layout, easier to read...
Urban has obviously made his bed and will lay in it, as they say, despite what the result or reality may be. What problems he had before the marriage, in his personal life I have no knowledge, but certainly after the marriage, has not been a very steady success. Rehab months after, lackluster sales of his cd, in seeming servitude to her career. Not having been a prior fan, I most certainly would not become one now. Not being a fan of his music, he just seems as bland as she is, and he's basically relagated to the shadows on "her" red carpet. He announces she will go on "his" tour, yet in the recent appearences at the NYFF movie showings, the photos are mainly of her alone, and he just shows up to escort her into the limo, pretty much just a warm body put to good use. But that is what he has decided on, and it seems some people are not too impressed by it.

maclen said...

nativeNYer said...
"Yawn...have you checked your dictionary today? Delusional and disillusioned are two entirely different words and I think you've confused them."

Thats an excellent point... Urban Myths is disillusioned... and Yawn is definately delusional...

banbotox said...

maclen said..."But that is what he has decided on, and it seems some people are not too impressed by it."

So true maclen. Not impressed at all.
In fact the longer this nonsense continues the worse he looks in the "role." The latest round of pictures are clearly pathetic.

upset with urban said...

As a long time Keith fan, I am saddened to say that I agree with every word I've read on your board. I find it very disheartening to see Keith has become that skinny little bitches puppet..and she just keeps ruining his life. I don't get it- WHY does he let her do this to him? He was well on his way before hooking up with the transparent one...and now he just seems miserable. Keith- PLEASE come back to the fans that love you and your music! We are the ones that want you to be happy...your wife doesn't. If she did- she would spend time with you, maybe make a sacrifice or two for you-instead of expecting YOU to do everything for her! God forbid you have a child with her-because she doesn't even spend time with the two kids that she has. Wait- they aren't her kids anymore anyway-because KATIE makes a good mother. Thank God- because Tom is a freak, too. NICOLE-PLEASE- leave Keith before you totally ruin him!

maclen said...

Well, banbotox and upset w/urban, we may be seeing part of the reason urban cleared Oct from his tour, to be kidman's "escort" to the film festivals... yeah all dressed up in an Armani suit, shoes polished spick and span, (Did you see the urban photos urban myths put on the home page?) leading her from the "reds carpets glare", where again, shes alone posing for the photogs, with urban entering just to do his job of escorting her to the limo... I'll bet he makes an excellent purse holder, too.

banbotox said...

If his international commitments turn out to be escorting her pasty behind on and off the red carpet...I shudder to think where his career will be headed.

maclen said...

Well, with his new job of being her permenent escort about town, his next album will be called "Blurry eyed Romeo Blues" with the first single, "City Boy", folowed by "The Limo Rider", and then he will cancel next years tour, so he can be in the reality tv remake of "Green Acres" starring opposite his wife, who's motion picture career is halted by Warner bros. and several other studio heads who refuse to give her another movie, and you follow the starry eyed newlyweds as they try to settle down and get accustomed to their goat farm...

Anna said...

This is a great letter. I hope he reads it.

doublewide said...

i hope he reads it too. thanks to UM for putting the tom cruise pin stripe pic up! it would be funny if it wasn't all so sad....

and yawn, i like dierks, and i've seen kenny live (no thanks) i'll just continue in my DELUSIONAL world of cheetohs, big red soda, and my hope that keith will return

Sonora_Melody said...

Hurry and LEAVE! Don't let the door hit you on your way out!!

One less bitter and envious bitch like you at his concerts will be a great blessing. Please take your cohorts with you.

doublewide said...

One less bitter and envious bitch like you at his concerts will be a great blessing. Please take your cohorts with you.

derrogatory name calling to other posters just makes you look desperate, sonora. is that all you've got?

ShutUpAndSing said...

Sorona

Just because we don't believe in some of Keith decision and actions doesn't mean we can appreciate his talent.

I bet I've had more fun at all of my KU concerts than you have ever dreamed of having. You are probably just one of those Nicole fans who decided to check Keith out and you will be gone WHEN they are no longer together. But most of us will still BE HERE!

snickers said...

I don't think I will ever understand people who believe they know about anyone's life but their own.

Also, why does the opinion of some tv pundit matter to you? Why does a celebrity's spouse matter to you? Now (it's Sunday) would be a good time to add this: "Judge not lest ye be judged."

For my taste, most of Keith Urban's music hits the spot. His job is entertaining and, for me, he does just that.