I must admit that when this relationship first began, I believed in it. I knew it was a mistake (being an actress myself in "Hollyweid") and knowing facts about the real Ms. Kidman, but I hoped it wouldn't last.
Keith does not have the capability to live that kind of a lifestyle and I knew what it would do to him.
I also knew Kidman was more wrong than right for him.
As time went on, I began to see more & more what the "skeptics" were seeing. And it continued.
In retrospect, no matter how much positive PR was put out there, their actions spoke much louder than words...volumes in fact.
They met in January '05, Nicole gave Keith her contact information, he never called her.
From January to September, he was seen with the infamous brunette on a few occassions.
Their first "date" was in July '05 and yet, they were engaged by October...3 months? For someone who was in two long-term relationships, doesn't this seem a bit odd? And for someone else who was devastated by the break-up of a 10 year union, to agree to marry someone in such a short time makes no sense.
Keith met Nicole's children for the first time in December, once, at a dinner for Isabella's birthday. As far as I can tell, the next meeting with them was in the spring, and then not again til the wedding. I cannot say for sure, but it certainly seems that no time was spent with these kids since Nicole herself hadn't spent any time with them in between these time frames. We all know she spent every holiday with Keith from Nov - April.
Why would you agree to marry someone who has yet to establish a relationship with your kids?
Why would you agree to marry someone who has yet to allow you to establish a relationship with their kids?
In all of her free time, Nicole toured with Keith, showed up in Nashville with Keith, all the while, telling everyone how private she wanted it to be.
Keith, who never showed up anywhere with anyone in public in order to keep his private life private, all of a sudden starts showing up at industry events with Nicole.
Almost every single PR stunt with Keith & Nicole corresponds with big Tom & Katie news.
Immediately following a slip in an interview where she states she still loves Tom, she announces her engagement to Keith - 6 months after the fact.
At the same time People Magazine prints this and the media jumps all over it, Keith abruptly leaves the recording studio, and does not return for several days and starts pulling a diva attitude at events such as the ACM Ride when asked about it.
We all know word was out that Tom & Katie planned to marry in July originally.
Two people who insisted they would not discuss their relationship b/c they were private people, all of a sudden, announce their plan to wed a full week before the event. They allow everyone involved to talk to the media about it, agree to sell pics to the tabs, send beer out to the paps, and make sure they are seen tooling around town before their big day. They wouldn't announce their coupledom or their engagement but they announce their wedding?
Paps just happen to be waiting at the airport on their very private honeymoon destination and also, get pics of them hanging out at their very private bungaloo.
The first set of pics to be published of the happy couple look far from happy. In fact, they look like they have been together for 48 years instead of 48 hours.
Days later, we get new pics of the happy couple actually looking happy.
The honeymoon lasts a whopping 4 days total. With all of the money these two have and control over their careers, wouldn't you think they would take a nice long break?
As soon as they arrive back in Nashville, we get pics abound...going to Target, going to the gym (on a holiday when the gym is closed and when he has his own private gym in his house), at a July 4th celebration (pulling the diva attitude with the photographer and roping himself off from the rest of the establishment), etc.
In pretty much every pic of them since, they are walking 10 feet apart, one behind the other.
In every pic of them EVER, they only look like a couple when they know there is a camera on them...ever see the pics of them together when they don't realize someone is watching? They look like they would rather be anywhere but with each other.
And these observations only span up until the summer of 2006.
There are many more to be made since that time.
I believe Kidman did not count on her husband falling apart so soon. I believe she has had enough with him but the timing for a divorce is not right yet.
This marriage is already over and it is only a matter of time before she ends it.
And she will be the one to end it.
The post-rehab Keith is no better off than the pre-rehab Keith...I find this very telling...he should have been in a better place after marrying the woman he loves and he wasn't. If the substance abuse was an excuse then, by all accounts, he should be in a better place now...and yet, he still isn't quite himself yet.
This is obvious in recent interviews and performances.
Keith will not be the Keith we knew until this marriage is over and he can call his life & his career his own. Until he regains back his own identity, Keith URBAN, not Keith KIDMAN, and when he can be free of the inner conflict (the real problem) of being forced to live a life that is contrary to his nature, then the "old Keith" will re-emerge.
It is this inner conflict that has been wearing him down and manifesting physically.
That is what we have been seeing gradually getting worse over the past 18 months.
When Keith URBAN comes back, I'll be waiting.
There is a sad misconception that the "skeptics" are not "true fans"...we are...we are just not blind worshippers who cannot see beyond the infatuation some have had for Keith.
We do not own rose colored glasses that shield us from the startling comparison between the Keith in 2004/early 2005 and the Keith in late 2005-2007.
Look at the clips of performances, look at the pictures, look at his EYES. Compare.
If you do not see the difference, if you do not see the drastic changes, then you are not being honest.
Here's the difference between the "skeptics" and the so-called "true fans"...
The "true fans" are the ones who see what they want to see.
The "skeptics" see what is THERE.