Friday, February 23, 2007

Nicole's Kids... Or Are They?

Seems like they are Tom & Katie’s now, and have been for over a year.

Some have called it unfair to judge Kidman’s involvement, or lack thereof, simply by the amount of pictures out there. They will tell you that just because you see very few pictures of the children with their mother, does not mean that they spend very little time together. Nicole is just being protective, trying her best to shield her children from the insensitivities of the paparazzi’s prying lenses.

Reasonable enough. I recall the picture taken a couple of years ago of Gwyneth practically forced into a wall carrying her newborn baby, Apple, while paps surrounded her, trying desperately to get a pic of the cute little kid. So, it appears that if the paps like anything more than a shot of a celebrity, it is a shot of the sacred children.

In the case of Nicole Kidman, however, some have claimed that pictures are evidence of a mother who appears, on the surface, to be lacking in her involvement with the upbringing of her children.

Kidman’s motherhood has been called into question since the days when she was still married to Cruise. In fact, some Hollywood insiders will tell you that Nicole’s incapability to put anything or anyone - including her children - before her beloved career was partly to blame for the decline of the marriage (among other things).

The problem with Kidman in regard to her children however, is that she talks the talk well enough, but never walks the walk. There are countless interviews where she goes on and on about mothers and their children, she says how much she misses them, wants to spend more time them, etc. So why doesn’t she?

This is a woman who has more money than she will ever be able to spend and a private jet at her disposal, so why not take a nice little break and have her kids for a few weeks in the summer, or on school vacations, holidays, etc? Why does she keep signing on to do film after film after film?

This is a woman who has “homes’ all over the world - except one in LA - where her kids reside full-time.

In an interview for Ladies Home Journal, she told a journalist that she wishes she could spend more time with her kids but she’s just so busy. And she was busy. She had just spent the latter half of 2005 and the beginning of 2006 touring with Urban; attending to towel racks, laundry, lunches, and recording sessions at Urban’s Nashville home; making appearances at a James Taylor tribute, the Grammys and the Oscars. She spent Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years’, February vacation, April vacation, and Mother’s Day with Urban as well. Yes, she was a very busy girl alright. One has to wonder how it is she even managed to fit in a single botox appointment or yoga class with all of that going on.

To those that will say that just because we do not see pics of Kidman with her kids, does not mean she isn’t with them, I will grant you this: it is possible that she does see them more than we see her seeing them.

But she does not see them as often as she claims or as often as her fans will have you believe. And while pics do not necessarily offer all of the proof, they do offer much of it. To think that Kidman keeps her kids locked away in a house or a hotel room for hours on end, never taking them places or doing things with them is ridiculous. While she is out and about are her kids at “home”? And if so, who are they with and why aren’t they with her? After such long absences away from each other - to be expected apparently given her career and the custody arrangement - one would think she would want to spend as much time as possible and possibly take them along on her errands or outings.

The thing is, there used to be pics of Kidman spending time with her children. At concerts, sporting events, on-set visits. In fact, in the summer of 2005, while filming in New York, Connor and Isabella spent several weeks with their mother. They spent Christmas with her and Stephen Bing a year or two before that as well. And there are pics to prove it to boot...so much for the protection theory. Because it is so rare, any pap anywhere will snap a shot. And they have. So my guess is, if Kidman spent as much time with her kids as she claims, we may not have a pic for every occasion, but surely we would have a lot more. I have seen more pics of Kidman with other people’s children in the last year or so than of her with her own.

In fact, I have seen more pics of Kidman doing just about everything else.

Why, those nasty paps even followed her to her private honeymoon destination...and not only did they snap her de-boarding the plane, they also got pics of her at her private bungalow!

And then there was the visit with her husband in rehab. At the very reputable, very private, very celeb-catered Betty Ford Center. Try as I might, I cannot find one single photograph of any other celeb on the grounds of this facility (or any other) but those kamikaze paps were able to swoop onto the grounds, undetected, and get clear, crisp, eye level shots of the troubled couple trying to have some private time on the center’s lake. Bastards!

Yep, every yoga class this woman has ever been to and no matter where she was, we got pics. So how is it that they only get one or two shots a year of the mother mothering her children?

Scientology you say? Distancing her from her children because she is no longer a part of the cult? Then how do you explain the many moments that were documented in years past since the divorce? Surely, if you were going to distance the children from their mother, you would start weaning them off after the divorce no?

And yet, it has only been in the last year or so that the reports and pics of Kidman with her children have dwindled down to almost none.

So, riddle me this:

How is it that every move she makes is documented in the tabs...walking the streets on Urban’s tour stops; shopping in Nashville; taking strolls in parks; buying coffee at Starbucks; buying Swiffers at Target; going to the gym on a holiday when it was closed (how on earth did they know?); playing pool in a roped-off section of a pool hall; going to or coming from a yoga or pilates class in NY, LA, Nashville; singing at soundboards; going to the movies; attending dinner parties; having breakfast...but no shots of her with her kids?

It would seem she can’t do a single thing without being hounded and harassed by the media, poor thing. Except spend time with her kids.

Boy, those paps must have grown a conscience. They must have decided to forego “the shot” and be respectful when it comes to celebs trying to have a little quality time with their kids.

Someone should tell that to Courtney, Gwyneth, Julia, Madonna, Kate, Katie, and Angelina.

I bet they’d love to hear it.

29 comments:

Anonymous said...

Bravo! This needed to be said. It's time for that fake has-been to been shown for what she really is. Self-absorbed.

Anonymous said...

Can anyone honestly still think that she has a single maternal bone in her body?? Well done for saying what the majority (those that aren't blinkered hero-worshippers anyway) are thinking. There's no room for anyone in NK's sorry life, but NK. I'm so glad that those poor kids have Tom and Kat. Even although I think they are a bit strange - they at least GENUINLY care about the kids, and not just for the publicity they can give them.

Anonymous said...

Bravo!! NK cares only for NK..and everytime she opens her mouth..she only makes that all the more apparent..case in point the whole ridiculous..all about me Oscar interview..

Anonymous said...

Let's just hope to God she never has any kids with Keith. Cause we all know who would be left taking care of them. I think Keith would make an amazing Dad but I think Nickers would always want just for photo ops and all the other time they would be stuck with a Nanny. She can't have them messing up her career now can she.

Anonymous said...

I hope her goat realises that it will only see Nickers via web cam or whilst there are paps around.

Anonymous said...

Very nicely said.

After watching last nights self absorbed interview, NK said when asked about her kids, they are wonderful and I bet they are. But she also said that she lives in Nashville with Keith. And she also said she wants to get a farm and have a goat.

But anyone in Nashville can tell you how long its been since she (they) were in Nashville. And it was obvious that Russell was not buying the story of wanting a goat. So why would we believe anything she says about her kids. She's so good at perpetuating the myth.

Anonymous said...

She's so good at perpetuating the myth.
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actually no.. she's good at "trying" to perpetuate the myth..however only those with blinders and cotton in thier ears believe it...

the only myth she has successfully pulled off so far is that farce of a wedding..and Father(what was his name?) was sent packing just shortly after that..

Anonymous said...

And didn't she say in a previous interview that when she hasn't seen the kids in a while it takes a while for her to warmup to them so she can hug them.

There is the mothering instinct for you.

Anonymous said...

I'm amazed you as an observer have spent so much time documenting Nicole's life. Truly, it was exhausting to read what you wrote, so I can imagine it must be tiresome to spend your life surfing the net and reading the tabloids for tidbits of information on Keith and Nicole.
Why do you spend your life this way?

Anonymous said...

I'm amazed you as an observer have spent so much time reading this blog.

Truly, it's was exhausting to scroll down to your post after so many others who enjoy the articles here,

so I can imagine it must be tiresome to spend your life surfing the net and reading blog articles and posts about Keith and Nicole.

Why do you spend your life this way?

Anonymous said...

Why did you spend your life and time reading what she just wrote then ? I'm sure nobody twisted your arm making you come and view this page.. did they?

Anonymous said...

Exhausting is right............ time for a nap.

Anonymous said...

And don't forget about when the kids arrived for the wedding. They were whisked off the plane and off to the childrens hospital for another Nicold photo-op.

Anonymous said...

It's starting to be obvious to many people that NK doesn't spend time with her kids. She said she wished she could spend more time with them, but between her movies, and promotions and Keith, she just didn't have the time. I am a Mother. NOTHING would keep me from my kids...NOTHING. And if I had her money and a private jet ... there IS NO EXCUSE.

And some will say that she does spend time with them, but protects them from the paparazzi. First of all, she can't keep the paps from photographing her coming out of every coffee shop, gym and restaurant she goes to, so I find that hard to believe...unless all her photo ops are SET UP???

But if she is so worried about her own kids, why does she frequently get photographed with her sister's kids? Doesn't she care about them?

I don't think it's rocket science to realize she simply hasn't made her kids her priority. Nice to know she talks to them on the cel phone and makes contact by webcam. That's not likely more than 15 min a day...so it sure doesn't cut into her other activities. She's a real winner.

Anna said...

Thank you! because it will never be in the press.

You know why?
Nicole 'I love myself' Kidman is a GREAT FRIEND OF R MURDOCH

You wanan know what he own?

pretty much all the tabloids who are destroying the Cruise family (i said FAMILY)
the Sun, NY Post, etc
see:
Nicole kidman's manipulation with the help of her friend , media mogul Rupert Murdoch.

You may have notice how Murdoch's papers are getting on tom cruise: The Sun, The New York Post, etc.
Hum, see, they are trashing Tom and his family.
it include Kidman's children (only adopt, no affection here of course)

Now, If you are smart, you will get the picture: Nicole is pretty happy she don't have any bad single comment about her in these papers, thanks to her friend Murdoch.
But Tom and the kids got it.

How bitchy can she be?
did she ever care for her kids?

read this perfect blog, from freedom of speech, no Murdoch control here, and then a page on murdoch publications:

"This is a woman who has more money than she will ever be able to spend and a private jet at her disposal, so why not take a nice little break and have her kids for a few weeks in the summer, or on school vacations, holidays, etc? Why does she keep signing on to do film after film after film?

This is a woman who has “homes’ all over the world - except one in LA - where her kids reside full-time.

In an interview for Ladies Home Journal, she told a journalist that she wishes she could spend more time with her kids but she’s just so busy. And she was busy. She had just spent the latter half of 2005 and the beginning of 2006 touring with Urban; attending to towel racks, laundry, lunches, and recording sessions at Urban’s Nashville home; making appearances at a James Taylor tribute, the Grammys and the Oscars. She spent Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years’, February vacation, April vacation, and Mother’s Day with Urban as well. Yes, she was a very busy girl alright. One has to wonder how it is she even managed to fit in a single botox appointment or yoga class with all of that going on.

To those that will say that just because we do not see pics of Kidman with her kids, does not mean she isn’t with them, I will grant you this: it is possible that she does see them more than we see her seeing them.

But she does not see them as often as she claims or as often as her fans will have you believe. And while pics do not necessarily offer all of the proof, they do offer much of it. To think that Kidman keeps her kids locked away in a house or a hotel room for hours on end, never taking them places or doing things with them is ridiculous. While she is out and about are her kids at “home”? And if so, who are they with and why aren’t they with her? After such long absences away from each other - to be expected apparently given her career and the custody arrangement - one would think she would want to spend as much time as possible and possibly take them along on her errands or outings.

The thing is, there used to be pics of Kidman spending time with her children. At concerts, sporting events, on-set visits. "
all the articla:
http://umyths.blogspot.com/2007/02/nicoles-kids-or-are-they.html

Murdoch:
http://www.answers.com/topic/rupert-murdoch

of course she is the biggest famous liar with Bush I've ever witness

red star said...

I'm not much of a Tom Cruise fan, and I imagine his belief in Scientology colors everything he does, but I have to give him credit where it is due...at least he shows up for the job of Dad. I've read reoprts than he supervises their education and the photos prove that he attends their sporting events, which is more than you can say for their mother.

Anonymous said...

Quote: In an interview for Ladies Home Journal, she told a journalist that she wishes she could spend more time with her kids but she’s just so busy.



WTF? How can any mom be too busy for her kids?

Anonymous said...

When is she going to realize most of the public doesn't buy her mommy mumbo jumbo?

She'd like to spend more time with them but is too busy? WTF? That's insulting to those poor kids and parents everywhere who really work for a living.

I don't buy that she doesn't spend much time with them because of the all powerful Scientology either. The courts would rule for a mother.

My guess is she never wanted them in the first place, Tom did. They probably agree'd well before hand that they were HIS kids!

She is such a fraud of a human being and an actress! When is Hollywood going to stop wasting their money and stop trying to shove her down our throats?!

She has no redeaming qualities. She's a manipulator.

To those who say I don't know her personally...I don't have to. I can see how she is in interviews. Paps aren't giving her a break in taking pics of her kids. She's never with them.

And I'd surely never waste a penny on one of her movies. Why bother giving her the time of day with posting? Because like Paris Hilton...She just won't take the hint and go crawl under a rock, and I'm hoping Hollywood gets wise and sends her back under it.

Anonymous said...

Something is just very strange in the custody department of Tom/Nicole/Kids relationship. I do believe she wasn't given joint custody and the kids are being raised as scientologists. Whatever, it does seem...for all the psychoticness of Tom, he's trying to be a great DAD!

Anonymous said...

So much hatred! And you people talk about name calling and quoting the bible. Maybe you should take a look at your pathetic selves.

Anonymous said...

She is a millionaire, one of the richest actresses in OZ. She could MAKE time for her children if that was her priority. Many woman who make minimim wage make time for their children.

Children are NOT a priority in her life. I hope that God is not stupid enough to give her another one.

Anonymous said...

I bet she is making plans right this minute for a baby...from a surrogate mother, and RC's question about "do you intend to carry it?" was just a little hint to her adoring fans of that option. I can hear her now..."we tried to have a baby, but it was not to be..."

Anonymous said...

I'm actually quite surprised that the "Do you intend to carry it" question made it to air. Then again, maybe not. Planting the seed for the sypmathy vote....

Anonymous said...

"So much hatred! And you people talk about name calling and quoting the bible. Maybe you should take a look at your pathetic selves."

And YOU are here because.....?

Anonymous said...

I think Kidman wants to be a good Mother but isn't capable of the kind of sacrifice that is required. So...it's much easier to talk about her kids as if they are an important part of her life. That way the public thinks she is a good mother and she might even convince herself that she is. Meanwhile, she phones them or uses the webcam and fulfills her own concept of parenting.

The good news is that Tom seems to have taken his responsibility seriously and appears to truly care for them. Time will tell how much harm they've experienced through an absentee mother and a semi crazy scientologist father. Lord...perhaps celebs in general should be prevented from reproducing?

Anonymous said...

Thank goodness Tom has the kids. He may be a couch jumping, scientologist weirdeo but at least he's there for his kids and so is Katie. Which is FAR more than we can say for Nicold.

If it isn't about HER she can't be bothered. Which still surprises me that Keith would marry such a woman. Contract or not.

She only USES the kids when she's needing a lift in the PR dept. Which is totally sad and disgusting.

I do hope that her and Keith don't have/adopt a kid together. I would hate to see another kid come into her life that won't see the love, attetnion and guidance that they would deserve because she's too busy worrying about herself...and I don't think Keith's ready to be a single dad either.

Anonymous said...

I'm confused by one of the writer's ideas. First is written this:

"She had just spent the latter half of 2005 and the beginning of 2006 touring with Urban; attending to towel racks, laundry, lunches, and recording sessions at Urban’s Nashville home; making appearances at a James Taylor tribute, the Grammys and the Oscars. She spent Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years’, February vacation, April vacation, and Mother’s Day with Urban as well."

Then the writer goes on to say;

"The thing is, there used to be pics of Kidman spending time with her children. At concerts, sporting events, on-set visits. In fact, in the summer of 2005, while filming in New York, Connor and Isabella spent several weeks with their mother."


Are you saying that her lack of parenting coincides with her involvement with Urban?...that he needs or demands her complete attendance and attention, to the point of downplaying how much time she spends with the kids?

I'm not accusing, I just need clarification. In the time frame presented, her not being with her kids seems to coincide with her engagement/marriage to Urban.

Anonymous said...

My take on this is that Kidman's priorities are related to what makes her happy. If she wants to spend time with her "boyfriend" ... then that's a priority. If it's the career...then, that's a priority. She could make the kids a priority, but she chose her career, UN obligations (?not sure how much time those took!!) and her boyfriend / fiance. If she is a true mother, NO ONE would keep her from her kids, even if he wanted her 100% attention. It wouldn't happen. This is Kidman's decision...and has nothing to do with Keith.

Anonymous said...

"Are you saying that her lack of parenting coincides with her involvement with Urban?...that he needs or demands her complete attendance and attention, to the point of downplaying how much time she spends with the kids?

I'm not accusing, I just need clarification. In the time frame presented, her not being with her kids seems to coincide with her engagement/marriage to Urban."
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Yes, 1:18pm, that was the implication. But not b/c Keith needs or demands her time - b/c she chooses that is how she wants to spend her time instead of with her kids.

9:12 summed it up perfectly:

"My take on this is that Kidman's priorities are related to what makes her happy. If she wants to spend time with her "boyfriend" ... then that's a priority. If it's the career...then, that's a priority. She could make the kids a priority, but she chose her career, UN obligations (?not sure how much time those took!!) and her boyfriend / fiance."